AA: Bad Medicine

We received a phone call from a family friend that has been experiencing marital problems over the last year largely due to her husbands religious zealotry to his AA group. The call was a sad one. He had finnaly taken the advice his group and mainly his sponsor had been giving him over the last year. That she was a obistical to his sobriety. (toxic) I knew nothing about Alcoholics Anonymous and thought it a very strange situation, and of course isolated to this one group or sponsor. But as I have read letters of the destructive path of AA I now know differently.

To think this is the woman that supported him through countless years of Alcohol and Drug induced mental abuse. Raised his children when he couldn’t see straight, kept him in a Job, cleaned up his vomit etc… And now she finds her self finally the looser – not in the battle over Alcohol but in the battle for her husbands loyalty; captured by Alcoholics Anonymous.

She presented her research to him, with her concerns about AA and it’s cultist/religious doctrines bringing about a very telling response from him: Me first, then AA, then you

Truth is, his sobriety has trumped every thing in his life, including the one thing he became sober for – his family.

As I have said before: when you take the object of your addiction, an object that was at the center of your life in a negative, and keep it in the center of you life just in a different light… are you really free from that object. Where it ruled you once by it’s presence, it rules you now in it’s absence. AA does not remove the object of your addiction from the thrown, it only crowns it in it’s glorious defeat of your life. Destined to rule forever as you chant his victory – bowing to him. proclaiming your powerlessness over his majesty.

The destructive path of AA can be seen most clearly in relationships outside of the “fellowship”. The first warning sign is a so called recommendation that you not date or start any new relationships for the first year of your eternal recovery. This is a tool to Isolate you and force you to build emotional chains only to those in the group. This has a little help by the insistence of you leaving your old life, family if need be, or even “Toxic” Marriages. Pile on top 90/90 (90 meetings in 90 days.) and the encouragement to attend more than one meeting a week and you have a great opportunity to totally consume a persons life by widely used cultist means.

First of all, there are no “recommendations” or “suggestions” in AA. Those are bate and switch terms. It is very clear with just a cursory reading of the opening statement from the Big Book, and also, from the double talk in groups. Pressure for the “90/90″ 90 meetings in 90 days I imagine has a wounderfull effect on marriage and relationships. It is also a virtue to attend more than one meeting a week. Shure you can “take what is helpful and leave the rest”. But only if you want to Die or spend time in prison. Other wise you must follow the 12 steps and Big Book “Completely“. This saying of take and leave the rest disturbs me more and more each meeting I attend. (I attend 3 a week for reasons I will explain later). First of all they do not mean that sensirely. It is a obvious ploy to keep you in their snarls until you have been emotionally tied to the group. Until they can spring the truth on you; that you must Completely follow all of the doctrines in order to be Free. Other wise spend the rest of your life a miserable “Dry Drunk” , “White knuckle drunk” or ” 1 stepper”.

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